A cousin posted something beautiful on kindness yesterday ! This triggered a thought……when we think of kindness, do we not sub-consciously assume kindness only for those who are not close to us ? How kind are we to our near n dear ones…to those who matter most in our lives….our immediate family members…….mother, father, husband, wife (am excluding sons n daughters for we are partial to them and, therefore, our kindness to them is agiven) ! At times are we not violent to them in words and harsh in thoughts ? And at times, do we not treat them shabbily…… by words spoken n unspoken, by behaviour n gestures, by certain things we do or do not do ? Why do we lose our senses n sensitivity, why do we take them for granted…… ?
The more we evolve, the more we devolve……?
Now I have left my pain, anger and bitterness behind to set myself free from the prison I was in. Two, too close to me n taking advantage of my unquestioning trust in them, consciously conspired to commit monumental treachery and fraud upon me. This began about two to three years ago I think….right under my nose n I didn’t even smell it…how could I…..so complete was my faith in them. About a year and few months back, their deceit was revealed. I was crestfallen, torn into pieces. It was so difficult to heal the wound and I went berserk. Now I look back and realize, they did good to me by their treachery n deceit….for that showed me their true colours and allowed me to free myself from the bondage, from the fake.
As the new year dawns, I look back with satisfaction n happiness and bask in the glow n glory of new, beautiful relationships. “If life can remove people you never dreamed of losing, it can replace them with someone you never dreamed of having”.
Now i can ignore the treacherous as they are relevant no more !
(Note: As told to me by someone, put in my words though.)
On the edge of Age…
On the cliff of Life…
On the brink of Death…
On the end of the beginning and beginning of the end….
When darkness has devoured the light and spark has gone…
When all seems to be lost forever in the abyss of nothingness…..
When time has timed out and space has shrunk ….
Mind drifts and dithers, confused and confounded,
Desperate to capture life’s journey in few fleeting moments !
Life….a kaleidoscope of colours n myriad hues,
But now all in black n white…nay Grey !
Life….a parade of people, places n peccadillos,
All that is left now is fragile vanishing memory !
Mind lucid no more…..now conscious, now unconscious…incoherent,
It tricks, it teases, it plays games !
Flood of Illusions, deluge of delusions !
A constant subliminal struggle !
And the matter matters not any more !
People loved n loving but are images hazy n distant !
Echoes come calling from far away shores,
But fade away in inaudible whispers !
It’s a different world out there……frightening but mesmerizing n enticing,
Blackest of the black hole !
It beckons, it calls, it tempts, it shepherds….
To the oblivion n beyond !
To keep the tryst with the unknown !
Why are we so obsessed with the thoughts of the people we don’t care for or don’t like ?
Are we so insecure that we have to pull them down constantly, repeatedly to show ourselves or our favoured favourites in shining light ?
Agar hum unhen nahee chahte, to unka jikr kyun karte hain ?
We tend to mention them more often than the people whom we like, we love.
Everyone sooner or later reaches his/her level of incompetence. Each to his own ! So why ca’nt we leave them alone ?
We relentlessly deride n ridicule some people… may be due to our personal prejudices, political affiliations, or socio- cultural inclinations…whatever. We become judgmental, pass sarcastic remarks, forward uncomplimentary n derogatory (often false n ridiculous) forwards, and generally pull the person down with childish (perhaps malicious) glee..at times with the intent to malign, and at times unthinkingly….without any thought, without any application of mind..becoming victims of herd mentality.
But to what purpose ?
We only manage to be counter-productive….by our obsessive behaviour we succeed in embedding n implanting this person’s memory in the minds of one n sundry. We don’t allow the person to fade away…gracefully or even ungracefully….. we bring his presence in sharp focus time n again !
While fuelling the person’s unpopularity, we forget unpopularity is also a form of popularity. End of the day, willy-nilly we end up serving his purpose. As Oscar Wilde famously said: “The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about” !
When we visit a restaurant alone, we are faced with the dilemma…what to order and how much. Whatever we order, even if only one dish, a lot of food is wasted because the quantity is too much for one person to consume. To avoid such criminal wastage I have been suggesting all sorts of eateries to offer “half plate” of the dishes on their menu. For this half (50%) plate they can charge…. say 60%, and earn extra 10% in the process. It’s a win- win solution for all……..the customer pays for what he really consumes, the eatery earns additional 10%, and national wastage is avoided. So my friends, please recommend this to the decision makers in all the eating joints you visit and do circulate this thought widely.