Living in Denial: Udhar Ki Zindagi !
These days we see many living in denial……. in denial of their own strengths, weaknesses, situation in life..….both in thoughts and behaviour. They deny what is factual, and flaunt a life full of fabrication, falsehood and fakery…..to deceive first themselves, then others. It begins with the make-believe and showing off, becomes a pretentious habit, and soon acquires dimensions where it is a permanent trade-off of ‘what is’ with ‘what is not’. Seeking constant validation outside, they lose sight of the worthy and the important, and devote endless hours and energy to the frivolous activities for others to gain their appreciation. We also see this in social settings where in order to compete with the rich and famous, they boast, name- drop, and indulge in endless self- aggrandizement (paraded with put-on accent), reducing themselves to the ridiculous and pathetic. Bordering bizarre, they believe in this self-perpetuating lie….in their pseudo existence/udhar ki zindagi.
The dead depart and the accused are arrested, but the world around rest of the crestfallen family falls apart. We relish gossiping about and deriving voyeuristic pleasure from tragedies befalling others. Gruesome details, innards and all, are shared and forwarded endlessly and instinctively with glee and become fodder for free entertainment. It is forgotten there are none without dark hidden side.
As evolved beings, can we curb this primitive urge, and show sensitivity by shunning the senseless and being sensible? Can we search deep within and allow a semblance of dignity to those who have to suffer ignominy for no fault of theirs? Can we just let them be?
Divorced from our own thought process…
mindlessly following what is fashionable, what is in vogue, what is in….
to be with it….to belong…
to say it first, to show it first….
only to be slightly ahead of others in point of time !
Craving for appreciation from known and unknown…
Judging ourselves in the light of others’ judgments…
Attempting to impress with inanities,
N easily impressed with the banal…..
too eager to laugh at vapid and the tasteless ,
simply to seem to be enjoying with others….
suppressing individuality for the admiration of the contemporary crowd !
Being modern is to apply one’s own mind, or mindlessly follow the herd mentality ??
I quote Bertrand Russel in lighter vein:
“ The belief that fashion alone should dominate opinion has great advantages. It makes thought unnecessary and puts the highest intelligence within the reach of everyone…..”
When we visit a restaurant alone, we are faced with the dilemma…what to order and how much. Whatever we order, even if only one dish, a lot of food is wasted because the quantity is too much for one person to consume. To avoid such criminal wastage I have been suggesting all sorts of eateries to offer “half plate” of the dishes on their menu. For this half (50%) plate they can charge…. say 60%, and earn extra 10% in the process. It’s a win- win solution for all……..the customer pays for what he really consumes, the eatery earns additional 10%, and national wastage is avoided. So my friends, please recommend this to the decision makers in all the eating joints you visit and do circulate this thought widely.