We come across workaholics who sacrifice their health, mental peace, relationships and pleasures that life offers for the sake of excessive work, endless earnings, or both, even if they have gold in their teeth and diamonds in their toes.
At opposite end of the spectrum, we encounter the breed who treat work as part-time hobby at its best, and as a dirty word at its worst. Their priorities are shopping online, shopping offline, partying and more partying. They waste the best years of their lives (when the adrenaline is pumping in full force, and limbs, mind and faculties are at their prime) seeking the fake and indulging in the frivolous. They consider themselves as a gift to the mankind and take people and privileges for granted. When cautioned or counselled, their inflated ego can’t tolerate and they throw threats and tantrums. The close ones give up. The savings, largely ancestral, are blown away. The long rope of time and space thrown for bringing them to senses is used to hang themselves. Atrophy soon sets in, the rot is irreversible, the decay is complete, total and final.
And mind you, both the specimen are mindful of the consequences of what they are doing. It’s mind-boggling, flabbergasting. The fire in the belly is in the wrong belly.
One deserves when one earns, or at least sincerely tries. Also, all work n no play makes us dull n boring.
So the Mantra ? …..Work Hard and Party Harder !
LET’s NOT IMPOSE….NOT EVEN GOODNESS!
Subtly show the right choices to the family’s young adults, but don’t make their choices; they will make their own intelligent ones…..when they want to.
All are comfortable in status quo and instinctively resist any change, and therefore, become defensive and defying to defend the ego.
Why insist or instruct, and come across as interfering? Let them sing loud and dance electric to Dr. Alban’s “It’s my life”, and join the party. Why be a spoilsport.
Forget coaxing, cajoling, cautioning and correcting. In today’s world, we can’t even bring a horse to the water, forget making it drink. Horse Sense!
The Other Side of Midnight ! (with thanks & apology to Sidney Sheldon)
Ok, they can’t “cool it”, nor are they “hot”, but can’t they warm up to the idea? It’s high time the seniors also looked at the changing times and relationships through the prism of the younger lot. They talk about the generation gap, but where is the effort to fill it?
Whereas minimal discipline and civilized norms of behaviour can’t be dispensed with, why keep clinging to the past, the unnecessary and the unwanted? Resolve the crisis of confidence. When in doubt, give benefit of doubt.
The body ages, but one can be young and contemporary in mind. No doubt, “the in” vocabulary and behaviour do not decide the primitiveness or modernity, it wouldn’t harm to follow these simple survival rules: Suggest, not instruct; Listen, not ask! But by no means give in, rather give! Give space, even if void : )
Constant complaints, criticism and cross-examination only widen the chasm. “Who, what, where, why, when” alienate. Leave interrogation to IT, IB and CBI. Excessive curiosity will surely harm if not kill the cat.
Besides ignorance, ignoring too is a bliss!